Sex is sacred and sex is creative!
If you follow my Facebook page, you already know that my celibacy experiment ended after only two weeks (I know, those of you that know me are still laughing hysterically). I think there is a time for celibacy, but for me, that time is not now and it was not for the time after I wrote that blog post over three months ago.
Shortly after I wrote that post, I met someone. We were both coming out of relationships and we were both depressed, lonely, and starving for some genuine human connection. We connected. I told him we couldn’t have sex and about the experiment. He understood. So we cuddled and talked and snuggled for four nights. The morning after the fourth night, I caved. It had been 15 days since I had last had sex and my body welcomed the passionate release like a hot shower after a long day. Only it was 15 days. I didn’t fret over not making it the 3 months. Another time, maybe, another place.
The sex I’ve been having for the last three months were a necessary creative fuel for my writing and my motivation. A lot has happened in that short span of time! I began my private Facebook group, Sacred Sex, Emotions, and Intimacy, and began to own my calling as a sex positive teacher and sex/relationship coach. Sex is by nature creative, as in, it creates life! Therefore, our sexual health is directly correlated with our creativity. Everyone’s sexuality is different and everyone’s creative nature is different. The interplay between the two is individual to each person.
So, even though I “failed” at my little experiment, I’m okay with it. The sex feels good, especially after the previous few months of mediocre, meaningless sex. It makes me happy and right now in my life happiness is essential to moving forward and doing my work. It made me realize that abstaining is not the right thing for me now because of who I am and how I thrive. So I failed at my abstinence, but I didn’t fail at being myself. It was a lovely experiment and maybe I’ll try it again someday.